Therapy for Anxiety & Overthinking in Adults
When your mind won’t slow down, and it’s starting to affect everything.
Something feels off.
You think about things more than you want to.
Everything feels important, urgent, or hard to let go of.
You try to stay on top of your life,
but it feels harder than it should.
At night, you’re exhausted.
But your brain isn’t.
You’ve been trying to get a handle on it.
But nothing is really changing.
At a certain point, trying harder isn’t the answer.
You need a different way of working with your mind.
You don’t have to keep living like this.
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Fee: $185 for a 50-minute session
Private Pay. Superbills available. HSA/FSA accepted.
What I Help People Through
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Overthinking is when your mind keeps returning to the same thought, problem, or possibility long after it’s useful.
It can show up as going over something from the past or getting caught in what might happen next. You may try to think it through repeatedly, but instead of reaching a conclusion, it keeps reopening.
At a certain point, it stops being productive. You might find yourself stuck, unable to move forward, concentrate, or take action because your attention keeps getting pulled back to the same place.
Over time, it can start to affect your work, relationships, and overall functioning, especially when your mind won’t shift away from it.
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You can be in a good relationship and still feel unsettled, even when nothing is clearly wrong. It can become hard to rely on what your emotions are telling you or to know if what you’re experiencing can be trusted. You might find yourself wondering if you truly love your partner, if they really love you, or if something is off that you’re missing. This is something I work with directly, helping you step out of the constant uncertainty and feel more grounded in your relationship.
Self-doubt can also show up more broadly, not just in relationships. You may second-guess your decisions, your judgment, or whether you’re getting things right in other areas of your life. It can come from a fear of being wrong, missing something important, or not trusting your own instincts. This is also part of the work, helping you build a steadier sense of trust in yourself.
There’s often a pull to check, get reassurance, or figure it out so you can finally feel settled, but it doesn’t hold. The uncertainty comes back, and over time it can feel like there’s no solid ground to stand on, either in the relationship or in yourself.
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Social situations can start to feel more difficult than they should. There can be a strong awareness of how you’re coming across, along with a fear of being judged, misunderstood, or seen in a way you don’t want. You might hold back, avoid certain situations, or push through them while feeling on edge. This is something I work with directly, helping you feel more at ease and able to show up as yourself.
Self-esteem can also become an ongoing source of strain. You may question your abilities, your value, or how you compare to other people, even when there’s evidence that you’re capable. It can be hard to feel confident in your own judgment or steady in how you see yourself. This is also a focus of our work, helping you build a more stable and accurate sense of who you are.
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Perfectionism can create a constant pressure to get things right and avoid mistakes. You may hold yourself to a high standard and still feel like you’re falling short, even when you’re doing well. It becomes hard to feel satisfied with your work or trust that what you’ve done is enough.
Burnout can develop when that pressure continues without relief. You might feel drained, disconnected, or like you’ve hit a point where everything takes more effort than it used to. Focus drops, patience gets thinner, and things that once felt manageable start to feel overwhelming. This is something I work with directly, helping you step out of that cycle and find a more sustainable way of functioning.
Low motivation often shows up alongside this. You may know what needs to get done but have a hard time starting, following through, or staying consistent. It can feel confusing, especially when you’re used to being capable. This is also part of the work, helping you rebuild momentum and move forward without relying on pressure to get there.
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Pregnancy can bring a level of anxiety that isn’t always expected. There can be pressure to do everything right, concerns about health and safety, and a sense that more is at stake than ever before. Even when things are going well, your mind may stay on high alert, making it hard to relax or feel at ease. This is something I work with directly, helping you navigate this time with more steadiness and support.
The postpartum period can come with its own set of challenges. You may feel overwhelmed, unsure of yourself, or not like how you expected to feel after having a baby. The adjustment can be intense, especially with changes in sleep, identity, and daily life. This is also a focus of our work, helping you find your footing as things shift.
This stage of life can be both meaningful and difficult at the same time. You don’t have to be in crisis for it to matter. Having a space to talk through what you’re experiencing and feel understood can make a significant difference as you move through it.
How Therapy With Me Helps
I’m Alex, a licensed therapist based in Santa Barbara, and anxiety is what I specialize in.
Anxiety is not one-size-fits-all, and neither is therapy. Some people come in knowing exactly what they’re dealing with. Others just know something isn’t working. We start there.
My approach is structured, thoughtful, and active. We take the time to understand how your anxiety is operating, in your thoughts, your body, your behaviors, and your relationships, then begin changing the patterns that are keeping it in place.
I use ACT, CBT, and ERP when appropriate. Techniques are tailored to how your anxiety actually functions, not applied in a one-size-fits-all way.
Therapy with me is not about talking in circles. It’s about helping you feel more solid in yourself.
Ready to take the next step?
Frequently Asked Questions
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Yes.
The patterns you’re dealing with, overthinking, relationship anxiety, self-doubt, constant stress, are things that can shift with the right kind of work.
Most people who reach out have already been trying to manage it on their own. Therapy helps you step out of those patterns so things actually begin to change, not just make more sense.
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Therapy here is active and focused on change, not just talking things through.
We look at how your patterns are showing up in real time, like overthinking, self-doubt, or anxiety, and begin shifting them in a practical way. You’re not just understanding what’s happening, you’re learning how to respond differently so it stops taking over.
A lot of people notice that things start to feel more clear, more manageable, and less constant as we work together.
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That’s common.
Some people come in after talking about things in past therapy but not seeing much change. This work is more focused on what’s actually keeping the patterns going so things can begin to shift in a more noticeable way.
You don’t have to start over. We build from where you are.
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Over time, things start to feel less intense and more manageable.
Your mind doesn’t pull you into the same loops as easily. Decisions feel clearer. Relationships feel more stable. You’re not second-guessing yourself in the same way.
It becomes easier to move through your life without everything feeling so hard to manage.
Therapy Office:
1601 Anacapa Street
Santa Barbara, CA 93101
Telehealth Sessions:
Available to those residing in California
Ready When You Are
Call or text: 805-403-7901
Email me: therapywithalexg@gmail.com

